How to handle the hurt

It is completely baffling and horrible how we as humans are so quick to betray and tear each other apart.  Yet we have been doing it since the beginning of time.  In some cases it is by blaming the other person when we are caught up in something as Adam did with Eve.  Or because we are jealous of what another person does, as Caleb did to Abel.  Or how about jealousy and to gain what the other person has?  Jacob tricked his brother Esau and his father in order to gain Esau’s birthright and blessing.  The ultimate betrayal was Judah betraying Jesus.  He regretted it later and said in Matthew 27:4 “I have sinned.”  he declared, ” for I have betrayed an innocent man.”  It has been part of our nature since Adam and Eve first sinned.  We turn on each other quickly and what for?  Money? Not enough attention?  Our feelings are hurt?

It doesn’t matter.  We as humans hurt others when we hurt and when we do this we also hurt the Lord and the man who died on the cross for us.  So how do we keep from continuing these vicious attacks on each other and the Lord?  How do we stop the cycle we seem to be in?

1) We make no response (Matthew 27:14).  I believe with no response it shows that you are trying to be forgiving and loving as the Lord was as He was being persecuted.

2)Wash and keep ourselves clean so that no fault can be on you.  I believe by doing so we can stop passing on the cycle.  Although you may be under attack you are not in return attacking someone else.  You are letting it slide off and keeping your own mind and spirit clean.

3)Forgive and pray for your persecutors.  Jesus was hung on a cross for us and his persecutors.  Yet some of his dying words were asking the Lord to forgive them.  There is nothing else you can really do unless you strike back, but that’s not love and that does not stop the cycle of hatred.

4) Remember you never know your own God Plan, let alone someone else’s.  So be careful because those you attack or persecute could be someone God has great plans for and you don’t want to be like those on their knees in front of Jesus realizing they had just crucified the Son of God.

The next time that we feel like the world and even the church is against you or when someone else is attacking you remember that hurting people hurt people.  They may not know what they are doing and even if they do it is not our place to strike back.  God is the ultimate judge.  Walk away and work through the pain they are causing you but DO NOT retaliate.  Vent to those that you trust and lots and lots of prayer but then let go and move forward.  This is something I have been having to learn in a big way lately and it is something that is helping me.  It’s not easy by any means but it’s what has been helping and I pray will help someone else.


Lord,  we come to you asking you to help us through this thing called life.  Help us to be loving and forgiving of those who are hurting us and doing everything in their power to tear us apart.  Keep us strong and able to walk through all of this pain knowing that you are our loving Father and that you will keep us in your arms forever and ever.



As humans we all stumble and fall.  We give our lives to Christ and say that we are never going to leave or forsake Him but then our old lives crawl back up or although we accepted Christ nobody is there to help us be accountable and teach us the true meaning of having Christ in our lives.  So we turn away from him.  We all tend to fall short and betray the Lord in some way.  He even foretold that the disciples would all deny him and one of them would completely betray him.  (Matthew 26: 21 While they were eating, he said, “I tell you the truth, one of you will betray me.”)  It’s not what we want to do it is our human nature.  We may say over and over again throughout our walk with the Lord that we will never desert the Lord as the disciples swore (Matt 26:35) but just as they all did at the time of Jesus’ arrest  (Matthew 26: 56 But this is all happening to fulfill the words of the prophets as recorded in the Scriptures.” At that point, all the disciples deserted him and fled.) so do we at some point or many points in our lives. Something always seems to attract us as better than this walk with Jesus. In the end though we realize our mistakes as Peter did in Matt 26:75 and we go away weeping. We must strive harder though and do what we can to keep ourselves cleaner.


I recently got a tattoo of a cross on my wrist but not on the outside or the inside of my wrist but on the side.  A good friend of mine asked me one day why I got it there of all places and at first I told her I was afraid of the pain on the inside of my wrist.  Well that may have been the reason at the time but I’ve really been thinking on that question and there is more to it than that.  It is in a place that I can ALWAYS see it.  I can always see that symbol of my Lord and my Savior.  I need to start looking at that and remembering the fact that He died for me on that cross.  Me, a sinner, just like all of us and although I have many many times in the past turned my back on Him it’s time to put all of that behind me and start living fully and completely for Him.  So every time I look down and see that cross I will lift up a prayer asking for forgiveness of my known and unknown sins and thanking Him for giving me His wonderful grace and love.  I will remind myself that I am His and as such I must strive harder to live as He lived and do as He wants me to and NEVER turn my back on Him again.


Lord, we are a fallen creation.  We will hurt you every day with our actions and our thoughts.  We come to you asking for your grace and forgiveness.  We ask that you show each of us something that will be in our face all the time reminding us that we are yours.  Give us something to remind us to never leave you nor forsake you.  Thank you for everything that you have done and will continue to do for us until that glorious day when we can sit at your feet.  AMEN


I am not one that talks politics.  In fact I tend to steer away from those discussions because I get confused and I don’t trust any one that is up there a majority of the time.  I have yet to find any politician that doesn’t turn my stomach.  This year has become one of the worst though.  During this presidential race I have heard so much hatred and people saying this or that about the end times or Antichrist.  It’s all about who hates who or who did what corruption and it has completely just had me giving up all together on even trying to follow things.  People are more up in the air than I have ever seen in my life.  I am just looking at it all with confusion and wondering why?  Why is everything like this?  Because of my attitude and questioning I am being accused of not caring and being heartless because I am not reacting.

I am not reacting because of what the verse says in Matthew 24:6  “And you will hear of wars and threats of wars, but don’t panic.  Yes, these things must take place, but the end won’t follow immediately.”  God already foretold all these wars, our political environment going to hell, evil shooting innocent, ALL of it must take place for the end to occur.  

BUT and this is something that I either ignored or skipped over entirely.  “the end won’t happen immediately”  HMM MM  along with panicking over this yuck many of us keep telling ourselves we are at the end.  First of all this verse clearly states at the end that the end WILL NOT happen immediately.  Second, further into Matthew 24 it clearly states that not even the Son himself will know the day or hour when HE will come.  So why are we saying the end is near?  Wars and political unrest has been around since literally the beginning.  It all started in the Garden of Eden.  so why don’t we just sit back and take one day at a time?  Do what God calls us to do and serve Him.  Matthew 24:44 ” you must be ready ALL the time for the Son of Man will come when least expected.”  He calls us to serve Him and be ready at all times.  He calls us to not worry, leave it all to Him.  Pray for everyone and Pray to Him continuously.  If you just do as He tells you than you could find peace even in these trouble times.


Lord,  Help us all to find peace in you.  Help us to carry out your cause and to bring people to you during these wars and unrest.  Continue to give us your guidance and love.  AMEN


I know that this may sound funny to some but the sight of an email that my account was overdrawn but expenses paid, actually had me giving a sigh of relief just now. It did so because I was actually praying that my rent would not be turned away because I had overspent by $4 a few days ago which made it $4 short on my rent check that I had already turned in. The last thing I wanted was to have my rent check turned away and then not have a home to stay in.

Now I am sure you are probably asking yourself “Why is she even talking about this?” Well at the same time that I had that sigh of relief I also had a thought of how life can overdraw us and how leaning on the Lord and trusting him can be a relief to us.

How many times have you been so overwhelmed and exhausted by life? You put everything you have into running your kids here or there, doing this or that for your church or a cause that is close to your heart. You wake up in the morning go to work, come home start cleaning while you are cooking dinner for everyone who has actually been home all day or for a few hours, then you sit down and shove down dinner, then get up and clean up after dinner, finish cleaning up what needs cleaned up, get on the computer to finish some assignment for work or church that has to be done and then finally fall into bed to sleep only to get woke up and start all over again the next day doing the same thing. This kind of life can be overwhelming, exhausting and lead to burn out or being overdrawn and you slam into a giant wall.

I am told it doesn’t have to be that way, though. We need to learn our boundaries for one. Say no when it is just going to be too much. The house doesn’t have to be spotless. Left overs in a microwave sometimes or a free for all for dinner as I used to tell my kids when I had too much going on. Everything can and will happen if it needs to happen. We do not have to be superwoman (or man) and save the world. It is ok to breathe and just let God take the wheel.

This summer I am going to be working on breaking bonds that need broken and learning to let go and let God. It’s going to be very very interesting. One of the first things I am doing is I deleted FB from my phone so that I am not on it all the time looking for this or that “answer” or comparing my life to someone else’s. I am going to be working on spending more time with God and less time in front of the TV, or believe it or not, church. I am taking what the Pastors call a sabbatical and I am going to be hopefully writing a lot and moving forward as I feel God has been leading me to do so. I have become overdrawn in every way shape and form not just in the bank and it is time to step back and fix and adjust things so that it doesn’t happen anymore in the future. Time to not only go over and rebudget my finances but also rebudget my time and my way of life.


Lord, I asked you earlier to please come into me and fill every space and hole that needs to be filled. I am asking you to help me re-budget my life and to completely serve you. You are my heart and soul and I want my entire being to show this.


Psalms 51:10 (NLT)

Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a loyal spirit within me.

Ephesians 4:23 (NLT)

Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes.

Psalms 119:40 (NLT)

I long to obey your commandments! Renew my life with your goodness. 

Psalms 23:3 (NLT)

He renews my strength. He guides me along right paths, bringing honor to his name.


Matthew 20:23Jesus told them, “You will indeed drink from my bitter cup. But I have no right to say who will sit on my right or my left. My Father has prepared those places for the ones he has chosen.”

We all strive to be better or suffer more than others or do whatever we believe it will take to be in God’s good graces and hopefully someday be elevated to a level right next to Jesus. Or we look at this person or that person and we think “oh they for sure are going to be with Jesus on the throne” Yet we need to take this verse in Matthew and realize that it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter what works we have done or not done. It doesn’t matter how good or how bad we have been., Yes, we need to strive to be better people and love jesus and God but NONE of us is better than the other. None of us can say who will be sitting next to Jesus. Only God knows and He has already chosen. Just as He knows us before we are born He knows our place in heaven. It could be you, me, Mother Teresa, Bill Graham, or the homeless person down the street. Or it could be all of us. We do not know and we should not be fighting each other or being petty with all this “I’m better than you” Yuck! So stop trying to elevate yourself and just sit back and enjoy the Lord. Stop trying to be better than others or acting like you are and just let Jesus seep into your pores and your soul and know that it doesn’t matter. God knows all and will decide if there is a better person or not or if we are all just as equal.

Lord,  I am tired of trying so hard to be good, to be better because people think I should be.  I am exhausted from doing everything people think I should to get to you.  I know that it doesn’t matter what others think.  It only matters what you think.  Help me to let go of others and everyone around me and to just live in and for you!  Help me to break those bonds that hold me to this earthly life and to just let go for you because you already know my future.  You already know my place in heaven and nothing I say or do for the people here will ever change that.  You have my path all carved out and I just want  to follow that path and not anyone elses.  I am rededicating everything to you today.  Come and fill me with everybit of you.  Please don’t leave any corner or space empty or without you, Lord.  I am fully and totally yours.  AMEN